The last month has flown by. I have felt largely like what pond scum scrape off their feet for some time and finally went to have it investigated. What we discovered is: a. I have put on a large amount of weight and my body is not happy with it, b. my blood pressure is through the roof (150/110) and my body does not like that, and c. hormonally I am a mess. What it came down to was being started on not one, but two meds for my blood pressure and restarted on an estrogen based birth control pill. WHAT FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously, for the first 2 weeks I was dizzy and lightheaded 24 hours a day. Even driving, when I turned a corner the inside of the car would be spinning. Standing still, I swayed. I apparently scared the crap out of Mike- he just let on to that this week. He kept telling me to lie down and would bring me cooling drinks :) And when I melted down because I was tired of feeling so lousy, he held me in those big arms, kissed my hair, and told me that it was OK. All the while feeling lousy, himself.
We wrapped up our week of finding out what was wrong with me with a ear/ nose/ throat doctor appointment for him. Mike's sinuses are a mess and every one needs cleaning out, his septum is deviated and needs to be corrected, and his adenoids need to be removed. Why all this? Because he has had five sinus infections since February, he has sleep apnea from his sinus disease and enlarged adenoids, and he has constant migraines. Surgery is scheduled for June 15, 2009.
The doctors appointment was enlightening... Mike was filling out the paperwork and I felt him pause next to me. When I looked over at him, he was looking at the paperwork blankly. I asked him what was wrong and he said he didn't know who to put for his emergency contact. I was at a loss for words. If not my parents, then definitely one of my sisters I could list but he has no one. Both his parents have died and he is estranged from his half siblings. I am his emergency contact. It was an easy decision; we are looking at engagement rings and talking marriage but I was sad for him. We take for granted how lucky a family we are. We are many and we are close and would do anything for one another. He has none of this, right now. They will and already are welcoming him to the group with open arms.