For the past several ( too many) months, I have been seeing the ex again. He reappeared with promises of successful counseling to repair the damage of being stupid enough to marry someone in need of greencard (she played him like a fiddle), increased maturity, and undying love. Things were going fairly well and then last week he decided marraige and children were not for him. Uh yeah, I am not budging on those two things. Yellow house vs blue house, Italian vs Chinese- fine. Children and Marraige- NOT OK. I cried, I yelled, I walked away.
Yesterday, I renewed my Match.Com subscription with a renewed sense of determination. I am 35, funny, and a damn GOOD catch. We will see- the last try was a disaster and I swore off online dating forever. However, with guidance from friends, I have updated my profile and narrowed my requirements. I don't know what I was thinking but I didn't give any requirement for education or income. (It may explain the poor response I recieved.)
Pray for me. I may swear off dating if this doesn't work and become the crazy cat lady...
Piglet is giving me the high five to restart Match.com :)
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I think Princess P is giving you the high five to become the crazy cat lady:) Please, please, please make sure someone knows when you're going on one of these dates! We'll drive out to be your wingmen in necessary. I watch Criminal Minds - I know what happens!
Love that photo.
Okay, I don't usually share this sort of info online, but I had a lot of trouble finding my "soulmate." I think I was too compassionate in that particular department.
Gregg is not my first husband, but God willing, he is my last. I love him deeply. The real change, for me, came when I talked to God & admitted that I obviously didn't know what I was doing, and offered it all to Him. I basically decided that He was the husband that I was looking for, and that He needed to choose any other husband I would have. Then I got on with my work. Guess what? Gregg appeared; no kidding. It isn't magic, but it's a gift, and I thank God for His love, and Gregg's.
You ARE a catch; you are funny, intelligent, have a great career, you love cats. I pray with you that your loving heart will be held in God's love, and that He will give you all you need, each moment. It's an adventure!
I agree wholeheartedly with Karen. Give it up to God - tell him that you're "done". It's amazing what will materialize in your life when you "acquiesce the steering wheel" (for lack of a better phrase...)
And I love the kitty high 5. I miss my kitties. (I still have an oil painting of them in my living room though.... one day I'll take a photo of that and post it.)
I hope you find who you're looking for... I know it's not easy...
And if it makes you feel more positive, I didn't meet my husband until I was 36.
Good for you first of all for not settling for less than you want and deserve. That would be a big mistake.
I believe there are still good men out there and I hope you find a good one soon. The match dot.com thing sounds interesting. I hope it works out, keep us updated.
Nice post..! Match.com is really a very helpful site to find a true love.
Mr. Right had better like cats! Or kitty might give him the finger.
Amanda,
Yes, you are a damned fine catch. Fo’ sho’!!! Pretty, intelligent, independent, animal lover, compassionate, witty, insightful, funny, and I could go on….and to think I only know this from the few tidbits you show us on your blog. There is a lucky man out there who will not only get to know what little we all know about you out here in Blogistan, but also SOOOO much more. And, he gets to meet Princess in person, which makes me damned jealous of Mr. Right already! I love that damned cat of yours, you know that? I have her “loungin’ kitty” up on my screen show at work.
Ok, back to you again… I agree with everyone, you kind of have to let something else, whether it be God or match.com (or both), take over, especially when you’re at a point when you just really want to fold yourself into the warmth of a happy relationship more than ANY other time in your life. We have all been there and I feel your frustration.
Match.com was a great resource for me. I grew so tired of wasting time on dates before I realized that I didn’t know fundamental important things about a man. What Match.com does is give you answers to the basic questions first, and then it is up to you and him to see if you have chemistry. The key is, and always will be, to be honest in the profile section. That’s where we all take a chance on whether the guy is being up front, and for that matter, if we are being entirely truthful in ours. I had great luck on Match, and I have lots of friends who are also very happy with it (although many actually prefer e-Harmony), and in the end that was not how I ended up with Ed.
I wasn’t even looking when I met Ed. We worked together, I knew his name and of him, but had never met him in person. One day he walked into my office with a task for me and I peed myself.
No, just kidding. I didn’t. But I wanted to. Ha! I thought lightning had struck me. What was great was that I already knew “of him” from so many people who said he was a great person, so that when I did meet him in person the physical chemistry was blinding. I pray that love and lust and compassion and laughter and friendship also blinds you…in the form of Mr. Right!
Keep us posted. I’d be happy to chat if you ever want to talk about Match or anything. Let me know! Kisses to PPoP!
Speaking of matches, did you show Princess P the photos of Latte and Liger over at my blog? Just wondering if they might have some chemistry...Latte and Liger are "sports models," if you know what I mean, so it can only be platonic, but still they might have fun. We all love Dudley here, so who knows?
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